Frequently Asked Questions
Answers To Common Questions & Concerns
Sex therapy is a talk therapy (just like regular therapy) but with a focus on sexual concerns, sexual relationship issues with your partner(s), identity, intimacy, or sexual function issues. Sex therapy can be a good fit for ANYONE with a sexual concern. You do not need to be in a relationship to benefit from sex therapy. Some of the most common reasons people might seek sex therapy are:
- Desire differences between you and your partner (desire discrepancy)
- Couples or relationship therapy
- Couples struggles with conflict & communication
- Concerns about desire or arousal
- Low sex / no sex concerns (adults who have not yet been sexual and are not sure how to get started)
- Gender identity and/or transition
- Gender dysphoria
- Sexual orientation including gay, lesbian, asexual, pansexual, queer, etc.
- BDSM and Kink identity, exploration, concerns
- Struggles with orgasm or anorgasmia
- Overcoming sexual shame and/or religious trauma
- Non-monogamy / Polyamory
- Chronic pain and/or sexual pain
- Body Image
- Sexual trauma (assault, abuse)
- Anxiety about sex, fantasy, behaviors
When starting therapy, it's very common to feel nervous. it can feel intimidating and scary to share painful, difficult, or confusing parts of you. The fear around that can feel overwhelming. It takes courage to start going to therapy. The fact that you are on this website, looking for help, and reading this right now shows that you are being brave and seeking help.
Therapy is a space where you can be yourself and bring up all pieces of who you are without judgment, including feeling nervous. Our therapists are committed to finding a way to care for your nervousness and ensure sessions are as comfortable as possible.
We’re here if you want to talk about it during your call with us.
Take your time to read through our website. If you sense that we could help you, you can reach out.
During your call with us, you’ll be able to share what’s going on for you. Once we understand your needs, we will help you choose the therapist that is right for you. Or if you already have a therapist in mind, you may request them.
You can also ask us more about your therapist. You might be curious about how they have helped other people like you before or what a typical session with them is like.
It may be helpful to think of the first few sessions as trying out the waters with your therapist. During the sessions, you’ll be able to understand how comfortable you feel in sessions. Every therapist's approach is not going to work for everyone. What’s most important to us is that you find the right fit for you. We can explore that together.
It’s normal if you don’t feel ready to share everything
During sessions, it will always be up to you if you feel ready to talk about something or not. It’s our job to give you space to slowly start to work through the tough stuff. Gradually and at a pace that feels comfortable to you, you can share what you feel ready to share
You can also share with your therapist that you are nervous to open up about something and they will be able to talk about that too. Whatever is present for you. Whatever you are going through. Bring that to the session and you can explore that with your therapist.
If you open up to your therapist, they will not think you are too sensitive or that I'm a bad person somehow, they will think you are courageous and human. We know this because many of our clients have had the same fear (that people would think they are too sensitive or that I'm a bad person somehow).
We know that what you are going through is common through many years of working with people like you.
You have nothing to be ashamed of. Nothing you can say will cause your therapist to judge you. we all struggle, we are humans trying to be human, our sexuality and relationships can be complex and confusing and we might not know what's normal or ok.
Whatever it is you're going through, we provide a safe space where you can feel heard and supported without judgment.
We highly respect your privacy and value your trust.
You may be concerned about sharing things and being worried about who might know or find out. So we want you to know that unless there is an imminent danger to yourself or someone else, or we hear about someone vulnerable who has been hurt (like child abuse, or elder abuse), what you share with your therapist is completely confidential. Your therapist is prepared to speak on the limits of confidentiality so that you can be comfortable with what you share.
You can rest assured that you can talk about anything without fear of that information getting out.
If you have specific questions about how confidentiality works, you can ask them during your call with us or at any time.
You might be asking about how long therapy will take because you are struggling and you want to know how soon you'll start to feel better.
If this is true for you, we want you to know that on average, our new clients start seeing positive effects, feeling accepted and affirmed after the first 3-5 sessions.
By that point, they feel a little more calm and hopeful that healing is possible.
The total duration of therapy varies from client to client. Some of our clients find 10-15 weeks to be enough to focus on and reach specific goals. While other clients feel more supported by longer-term therapy.
You can work together with your therapist to find the length of time that works for you.
Overall, you can think of the first session as an assessment where you can share your story and your therapist can support you with structure questions as well. Your therapist will invite you to share more about yourself and you can also share what’s worked or not worked for your mental health in the past.
Some questions that your therapist may ask during a first session include:
- What brought you to therapy?
- What’s present for you in your life right now?
- What do I need to know about you to understand your current challenges?
You can ask your therapist questions as well. You might be curious about about the therapist's experience or how future sessions work.
The most important part of a first session is that you see if you feel your therapist is a good fit for you. If you feel safe, accepted, and comfortable with your therapist, you can discuss if you’d like to meet again.
Yes, we do offer a sliding scale. At this time we offer a sliding scale to BIPOC individuals, folks with disabilities, and folks who represent sexually-marginalized populations who have a financial need, and come from single-income households. However, there may be a waitlist. To inquire about availability or a waitlist, let us know that you’re seeking sliding scale services during your phone consult or in your initial email.
To get started, schedule an initial phone consultation in our online scheduler. During your initial call, you can share what’s going on for you and ask us any questions you may have.
By understanding your needs we will help you choose the best therapist for you and schedule your first session.
Get started by scheduling your initial phone consultation today.